Re: Need for more of a "roadmap"

Posted By A Son-Rise Message Board Participant on October 18, 1999 at 14:07:12:

In Reply to: Need for more of a "roadmap" posted byJane Boutelle on October 16, 1999 at 23:32:18:

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Hiya, Jane, i hope this message board turns out to be really helpful for you, i know that i often pick up really great tips or ideas aswell as lots of feel good stuff.
My son, has language and was until really recently almost exclusively using very repetitive - 'ismy' inappropiate language when we entered into a conversation with him. Now he will hold a conversation that will stay almost 100% relevant without diving into a verbal ism. The subject of verbal isms is interesting becoz i picked up a great tip from one of the Q&A's that Johnathon does, about joining when it is a definite verbal ism and not by way of conversation particularly. This can be helpful we found if in the middle of talking to him he might wander onto something irrelevant to the conversation and repetitive. then we would join him with the verbal ism and that way get back to the original conversation. It was often really successful. Another thing is to refer whatever your son is talking about to the activity, toy, game, subject, at hand. So if for example, you had been talking about a tower of bricks, and he then began talking about the time he had a burger with granny, then you could refer back to the present moment by saying 'wow that's a great idea we could pretend this is the restaurant.. and look here is you and granny coming in the car to get your burger' etc etc.
Hope those are helpful ideas for you,
Keep going, you are special people on a very
special and beautiful journey,
much love to all of you, Shara.

: Hello everyone-

: I'm happy to have just discovered this board. We've been doing a Son-Rise program for 3 years with our now 7-year-old son, Nicko. I really like the approach and the attitude, and I believe that we all have benefitted from the program quite a bit. But now we need a little help...

: It seems that our program has stalled somewhat (exacerbated by a cross-country move this summer and some other craziness in life). I'm trying to make sure I stay focused on enjoying and having fun with my son. But I also really feel the need to have more clarity - structure, if you will - as to what we're doing and how to do it. As he gets older, it seems more complex.

: He's verbal, but most of his speech is things going on in his head from the past, and is often very repetitive. It's a challenge to get him interested in or motivated by most external things. And he's become more like that in recent months.

: Any thoughts?

: Thanks for the "listening ear,"

: Jane

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Comments:: Whoops, try again! : Hiya, Jane, i hope this message board turns out to be really helpful for you, i know that i often pick up really great tips or ideas aswell as lots of feel good stuff. : My son, has language and was until really recently almost exclusively using very repetitive - 'ismy' inappropiate language when we entered into a conversation with him. Now he will hold a conversation that will stay almost 100% relevant without diving into a verbal ism. The subject of verbal isms is interesting becoz i picked up a great tip from one of the Q&A's that Johnathon does, about joining when it is a definite verbal ism and not by way of conversation particularly. This can be helpful we found if in the middle of talking to him he might wander onto something irrelevant to the conversation and repetitive. then we would join him with the verbal ism and that way get back to the original conversation. It was often really successful. Another thing is to refer whatever your son is talking about to the activity, toy, game, subject, at hand. So if for example, you had been talking about a tower of bricks, and he then began talking about the time he had a burger with granny, then you could refer back to the present moment by saying 'wow that's a great idea we could pretend this is the restaurant.. and look here is you and granny coming in the car to get your burger' etc etc. : Hope those are helpful ideas for you, : Keep going, you are special people on a very : special and beautiful journey, : much love to all of you, Shara. : : Hello everyone- : : I'm happy to have just discovered this board. We've been doing a Son-Rise program for 3 years with our now 7-year-old son, Nicko. I really like the approach and the attitude, and I believe that we all have benefitted from the program quite a bit. But now we need a little help... : : It seems that our program has stalled somewhat (exacerbated by a cross-country move this summer and some other craziness in life). I'm trying to make sure I stay focused on enjoying and having fun with my son. But I also really feel the need to have more clarity - structure, if you will - as to what we're doing and how to do it. As he gets older, it seems more complex. : : He's verbal, but most of his speech is things going on in his head from the past, and is often very repetitive. It's a challenge to get him interested in or motivated by most external things. And he's become more like that in recent months. : : Any thoughts? : : Thanks for the "listening ear," : : Jane