Re: Re: Lock

Posted ByStill Worried on September 30, 1999 at 13:10:08:

In Reply to: Re: Lock posted byJennifer on September 30, 1999 at 00:14:55:

: William explained to me that while I give Joshua as much control as possible, there are boundries. Just like there is a lock on the front door for the sake of safety, there is a lock on the playroom door so that I can offer my son this wonderful, non-distracting, safe learning environment.
: The rest of my house is very far from ideal in terms of being non-distracting and even safe.

I understand the need for the lock if the rest of the house is actually unsafe.

But otherwise, surely the thing about an offer is that the person to whom you're offering something is in control of whether they accept it or refuse it?

: As a parent that has also tried Speech/Occupational therapy, I can tell you that in less than 45 minutes, my son was screaming at the locked door and left very withdrawn with a lowered self-esteem. In his preschool class they used to strap him into a Rifton chair for circle time, eating, and any activity that required him to stay sitting. When I tried the neurological exercises from NACD, I lost rapport with my son. He would leave the room if I entered it.

I certainly agree with you about other programs - I don't see how they can use locked doors and restraints either.

:Sometimes he does protest that the door is locked, but he knows he is safe in the room and that he won't be forced to participate against his will.

But if you don't want to force him to participate, why force him to stay in the room?

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Comments:: : William explained to me that while I give Joshua as much control as possible, there are boundries. Just like there is a lock on the front door for the sake of safety, there is a lock on the playroom door so that I can offer my son this wonderful, non-distracting, safe learning environment. : : The rest of my house is very far from ideal in terms of being non-distracting and even safe. : I understand the need for the lock if the rest of the house is actually unsafe. : But otherwise, surely the thing about an offer is that the person to whom you're offering something is in control of whether they accept it or refuse it? : : As a parent that has also tried Speech/Occupational therapy, I can tell you that in less than 45 minutes, my son was screaming at the locked door and left very withdrawn with a lowered self-esteem. In his preschool class they used to strap him into a Rifton chair for circle time, eating, and any activity that required him to stay sitting. When I tried the neurological exercises from NACD, I lost rapport with my son. He would leave the room if I entered it. : I certainly agree with you about other programs - I don't see how they can use locked doors and restraints either. : :Sometimes he does protest that the door is locked, but he knows he is safe in the room and that he won't be forced to participate against his will. : But if you don't want to force him to participate, why force him to stay in the room?