In Reply to: Visual Stims
posted by Wynee on March 06, 2001 at 18:32:39:
Happy Wednesday!
I want to thank you guys for your input, it did help!!
I also chatted with Kelly (Ben's Mom) and she also helped with refocusing like you say getting into the "ism"; loving it, accepting it, delighting in it. Looking back now I can see I was not comfortable with it cause I felt frustrated that I could not break through instead of focusing on the true sense of "joining".
Last night I thought about the visual stims and decided to completely accept it, love it, and embrace it. Darren and I were sitting here and he was doing this visual stim with his hands up between his face and the kitchen light. so I joined him. I sat here trying to see what he see's and really getting into it. At a moment I was even kind of lost in it and not really paying attention to Darren and for the first time in this he did something! He looked at me wiggling my fingers, so I moved my wiggling fingers between his face and mine and he would give me direct eye contact and move his head closer to mine. So I kept doing it and then as he was looking at me so I puckered my lips and said O very drawn out and dragged it out and he watched me and puckered his lips. I sat here doing this over and over and each time I'd go O, he'd pucker his lips too. Of course I'd praise him and get all excited about it. Finally he would pucker and then he'd click his tongue (a new skill he's discovered) so I would click my tongue and then we'd just celebrate and be happy and I'd tell him how much I loved it when he did that, how much fun it was, etc etc. Then he would pull my hands back up and want me to wiggle my fingers, so we went on and on with it don't you know finally when I said O, he puckered and said O!!!!!! I was soo thrilled!!!! we even got into waving our hands with our fingers spread apart quickly infront of the green background on my computer monitor and it's rather cool!!! (you should try it! haha) I even showed him how he could do it as well! He actually would move my hand so that we could do it together!! The eye contact was awesome! The mimicing was great and we connected! I just had to share! Thank you all SOOO much for your words and thoughts and ideas. and of course the idea of me looking at myself and my thoughts and beliefs.
Kelly really does it best when she asks me about what my beliefs bring to me; funny how silly it is at times that we hold on for dear life to beliefs that are really screwed up! hahaha
Thanks be to my son-rise family! Wynee
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