Re: Burnout

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Posted By Laura on December 28, 2000 at 18:02:39:

In Reply to: Burnout posted by Ruth on December 28, 2000 at 14:22:42:

Hi Ruth,
Oh I could so relate to your message!..After over 3 plus years of running a full-time programme for our son there have been numerous times when I have felt burnt-out! The biggest learning for me with this is that it is totally ok NOT to be perfect! Try and think of it this way..do you want your child to think that anything that they feel or do that is less than "perfect" is therefore not in some way "good enough"? I suspect that your answer might be "no" so why not try and give yourself the freedom to be you "warts and all" and accept yourself, as best as you can during the times that you are not feeling positive. Be a role model for your child not just at the times when you are feeling energised and therefore the most effective but also model being ok with yourself and therefore him/her when you are perhaps finding it all more of a struggle.
Maybe try saying to yourself something like this "Ok so I am aware that I am feeling really tired and negative right now but wouldn't it be great to just share some FUN with my child?" From this point you might ease the pressure of both yourself and your very special child regarding getting "results" but prioritise just simply being happy togther, without any "rule book". From this base, once it is established you can build and build the FUN in learning for both yourself and your child...and when you stumble and fall that is totaly ok too! If you judge yourself for stumbling then the most effective thing you can do is to look at yourself and explore your beliefs in a loving and accepting way. If someone else makes assumptions about you then you only choose to give them power if you chose to adopt their beliefs as true if you believe they are!
You can do this!

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Comments:: Hi Ruth, : Oh I could so relate to your message!..After over 3 plus years of running a full-time programme for our son there have been numerous times when I have felt burnt-out! The biggest learning for me with this is that it is totally ok NOT to be perfect! Try and think of it this way..do you want your child to think that anything that they feel or do that is less than "perfect" is therefore not in some way "good enough"? I suspect that your answer might be "no" so why not try and give yourself the freedom to be you "warts and all" and accept yourself, as best as you can during the times that you are not feeling positive. Be a role model for your child not just at the times when you are feeling energised and therefore the most effective but also model being ok with yourself and therefore him/her when you are perhaps finding it all more of a struggle. : Maybe try saying to yourself something like this "Ok so I am aware that I am feeling really tired and negative right now but wouldn't it be great to just share some FUN with my child?" From this point you might ease the pressure of both yourself and your very special child regarding getting "results" but prioritise just simply being happy togther, without any "rule book". From this base, once it is established you can build and build the FUN in learning for both yourself and your child...and when you stumble and fall that is totaly ok too! If you judge yourself for stumbling then the most effective thing you can do is to look at yourself and explore your beliefs in a loving and accepting way. If someone else makes assumptions about you then you only choose to give them power if you chose to adopt their beliefs as true if you believe they are! : You can do this!