Re: Re: John

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Posted By A Son-Rise Message Board Participant on September 09, 1999 at 00:35:33:

In Reply to: Re: John posted byJohn Koumoutseas on September 08, 1999 at 04:11:49:

John: About the increased stimming. This happened to the child in the BBC video that The Option Institute is selling. It is an awesome video -- it is what clinched it for us to commit to the program 100%. Anyway, after a week in the room (this family went to their intensive for two weeks), the parents were left to themselves over the weekend. Jordan, their son, had the worst behavior that his parents had ever seen and you could really see the concern on their faces about this. William Hogan (I think -- it's been awhile since I've watched it) suggested that what he was doing was escalating because what they were doing in the room that week was so different from what he was used to expecting from them. I believe he suggested that since Jordan felt safe in the playroom to maybe sleep in the playroom for a few nights to make him feel more secure. I know by the end of the two weeks, he was going to sleep much earlier (there was one night he didn't go to sleep until like 3 a.m. in the video) and his acting-out behaviors calmed. A similar concept I think would be a child without a disability who might be throwing a tantrum in the store. He knows that that tantrum will get him something (maybe the parent bought him something, etc.) So if that parent didn't react that way the next time -- i.e., the child got nothing when the tantrum started and there was no reaction to the tantrum, so this was something he didn't understand. Before, the tantrum got me such-and-such and now it isn't working. So, I think I'll turn it up and make the tantrum even louder and bigger and see if I get what I want (the candy, etc.) I think the increased isming is a great sign right now for you guys. It means that Adam senses something is different and is just trying to find his place with the new rules. You're doing a super job. P.S. I agree about the markers. You probably should just remove them from the room for now and substitute crayons or maybe even chalk if he can tolerate the sound of it. It personally gives me goosebumps! I think you can even get scented crayons.

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Comments:: John: About the increased stimming. This happened to the child in the BBC video that The Option Institute is selling. It is an awesome video -- it is what clinched it for us to commit to the program 100%. Anyway, after a week in the room (this family went to their intensive for two weeks), the parents were left to themselves over the weekend. Jordan, their son, had the worst behavior that his parents had ever seen and you could really see the concern on their faces about this. William Hogan (I think -- it's been awhile since I've watched it) suggested that what he was doing was escalating because what they were doing in the room that week was so different from what he was used to expecting from them. I believe he suggested that since Jordan felt safe in the playroom to maybe sleep in the playroom for a few nights to make him feel more secure. I know by the end of the two weeks, he was going to sleep much earlier (there was one night he didn't go to sleep until like 3 a.m. in the video) and his acting-out behaviors calmed. A similar concept I think would be a child without a disability who might be throwing a tantrum in the store. He knows that that tantrum will get him something (maybe the parent bought him something, etc.) So if that parent didn't react that way the next time -- i.e., the child got nothing when the tantrum started and there was no reaction to the tantrum, so this was something he didn't understand. Before, the tantrum got me such-and-such and now it isn't working. So, I think I'll turn it up and make the tantrum even louder and bigger and see if I get what I want (the candy, etc.) I think the increased isming is a great sign right now for you guys. It means that Adam senses something is different and is just trying to find his place with the new rules. You're doing a super job. P.S. I agree about the markers. You probably should just remove them from the room for now and substitute crayons or maybe even chalk if he can tolerate the sound of it. It personally gives me goosebumps! I think you can even get scented crayons.