Re: Joshua

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Posted By A Son-Rise Message Board Participant on August 29, 1999 at 05:59:11:

In Reply to: Joshua posted byJennifer on August 29, 1999 at 00:52:22:

: Thank you Kelly for sharing about the outreach. There are so many good messages on this board.
: I took the summer off for volunteers and worked with Joshua alone. I would like to start up again in the fall, but I am dreading a repeat of the past problems.
: Our main problem was that Joshua asks for me incessantly. I try to be grateful that he can do this, but it made the volunteers feel as if Joshua didn't like them.
: He would say things like, "Mommy is comming" and, "bye-bye Katie" over and over. One time, a volunteer tried to go with that and went into a toy closet we have in the room. Joshua pushed the slide against the door and locked her in the closet! He is very persistant.
: Some people took this more personally than others.
: Does anybody have any suggestions?
: Also I wanted to comment that Joshua benefitted mildly from Secretin. His autism is connected to his MMR vaccine as well as my MMR vaccine. I am following Dr. Singh and Dr. Wakefields research. I think they are getting very close.

i highly recomment being honest. for example: "joshua, jamie (volunteer at time in room) is going to play with you now, mommy will be back later." it isnt hurting joshua that his mom cant be there all the time. it sounds like people are reacting to his wanting his mom. dont react just be honest and you will see he will be allright and before long will not keep asking for his mom. if he is getting what he want by asking he will continue to ask. he can have a great time in the room with others as well. when my daughter wanted to get out of the room, we were honest and said "oh, tyler we cant get out the door is locked, come on lets play." she might stand at the door for a few more minutes until she realizes that her crying and wanting to get out is not getting the reaction she wants. she eventually comes and play and within a week is shutting the door on her own. it is tough for moms sometimes - but which is better? and if it goes away its ok - right? he will stop requesting believe me. also, a summer is a long time to do the program on your own. a week is a long time also. i think having even 4 other volunteers and you creates so many more ideas and more brainstorming. lots more e's too! team work is great... hope that helped some.

love, jamie

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Comments:: : Thank you Kelly for sharing about the outreach. There are so many good messages on this board. : : I took the summer off for volunteers and worked with Joshua alone. I would like to start up again in the fall, but I am dreading a repeat of the past problems. : : Our main problem was that Joshua asks for me incessantly. I try to be grateful that he can do this, but it made the volunteers feel as if Joshua didn't like them. : : He would say things like, "Mommy is comming" and, "bye-bye Katie" over and over. One time, a volunteer tried to go with that and went into a toy closet we have in the room. Joshua pushed the slide against the door and locked her in the closet! He is very persistant. : : Some people took this more personally than others. : : Does anybody have any suggestions? : : Also I wanted to comment that Joshua benefitted mildly from Secretin. His autism is connected to his MMR vaccine as well as my MMR vaccine. I am following Dr. Singh and Dr. Wakefields research. I think they are getting very close. : i highly recomment being honest. for example: "joshua, jamie (volunteer at time in room) is going to play with you now, mommy will be back later." it isnt hurting joshua that his mom cant be there all the time. it sounds like people are reacting to his wanting his mom. dont react just be honest and you will see he will be allright and before long will not keep asking for his mom. if he is getting what he want by asking he will continue to ask. he can have a great time in the room with others as well. when my daughter wanted to get out of the room, we were honest and said "oh, tyler we cant get out the door is locked, come on lets play." she might stand at the door for a few more minutes until she realizes that her crying and wanting to get out is not getting the reaction she wants. she eventually comes and play and within a week is shutting the door on her own. it is tough for moms sometimes - but which is better? and if it goes away its ok - right? he will stop requesting believe me. also, a summer is a long time to do the program on your own. a week is a long time also. i think having even 4 other volunteers and you creates so many more ideas and more brainstorming. lots more e's too! team work is great... hope that helped some. : love, jamie