Frist of all, congratualtions for starting up your Son-Rise Program!! You'r son sounds absolutely adorable and sooo soo much fun! I would love to come and play some of these great games he has
Wow, what a great desire you have to truly help your son, love him deeply, and have fun together, this is beautiful! I am excitedly here to help you gain some clarity on what your next steps can be for your Son-Rise Program...
In your message you asked about a couple of your son's games and if they acutally were isms because of the level of control that he was asking for... you also asked whether games were to supposed to be so repetitive, and if you are to play the same "press my nose and I'll do voices" game 50 consecutive times... but the key piece out of all of this that really caught my attention
when reading what you wrote was when you told me exactly what you were doing- "following his lead"...
The reason this is so important and wonderful to realize, is that this one piece of awareness will help you cover both of the questions you had, and ultimately help you create the change you wish to see! Hurray!
The best part here is this: We dont know until we try.
What this means is that by you taking decisive action (taking the lead more)
in the playroom with him, you will be more equipt to help him
be decisive (choosing whether he wants to be exclusive or interactive). You will also
be able to really help stretch your son and challenge him to play games outside of his usual routinized game selection (what I mean by this is that you will be able to help your son play games that you want to play- with your personal plot- showing an interst in what you're suggesting , or play games where he has to become more spontaneous, or he is physically participating more, etc.).
What I suggest to you is to take a big leap forward in the playroom and try asking your son to show up in his games in a new way. This of course requires you to make new suggestions to him when playing games
. The best way for you to figure out what new suggestions to make when playing these games with him is to gain clairty by looking at the Son-Rise Program Delopmental Model and choosing a goal for him in an area which you want to stretch and help him grow in. Let this be your guide and then work on helping him in that area that you find to be a challenge for him.
When I talk about taking decisive aciton in the playroom I also mean this in terms of when to join your son and when you play interactivly with your son
. A great way to know if your son is exclusive and isming is if you pay close attention to his cues (which it sounds like you already are- nice job.), join him passionately, and then build a game just as passionately when you get a green light (if he isnt ready to interact go back to joining him)--> this will be your guide in telling you when your son is ready to interact. If he is seeking a lot of control in his ism, then my biggest suggestion to you is to GIVE GIVE GIVE that control that your son is asking for. By doing this you are building and deepening that relationship with him and then when he is available to interact it will be much clearer when he gives you that green light.
You are definitely on the right path!
Keep up the great work and have sooo much fun!!