My son is 16-year-old. We went through a huge experience - from almost non-verbal /about 200 words vocabulary/ , whirling, jumping at the age of 6 and until 16-year-old, which is now, when he is twice champion of private Chess School in our area, plays three musical instruments, knows the amount of all protons and electrons of all the elements of Mendeleev table. He is genius. But he still needs help. And he changes through the time.
I attended Option institute's start-up program at 2006. I also studied floor time method. I steel use it a lot. He still like my /his/ toys, animated dog , frog and tod, who can open their mouth and speak / with my voice/ about Magic School bus trip to the space with Ms.Frizzle, about planets and stars, etc. This is the best way for my sun to study Science in his 9th grad. Also we watched many Nova, National Geographic movies.
In my method I animate a lot, create on the spot lots' of stories and tell him with my toy's voice.
This way he learned many things.
He has difficulties to read, to focus. He has fine motor problems, and he doesn't like to write.
So, we do learning visually, or in animated form, or we discuss a lot.
Yes, we went through the auditory-processing treatment by Tomatis and Berard method, and he doesn't interrupt anymore other people, if he wants to join conversation, and he'll not speak "In parallel" one at the time with other person or people, he'll wait. This is a great result. He can communicate much better.
But we have now anxiety problems. His motor planning and schedule planning became much weaker, than few years ago.
If we'll not push him to do faster, or to do, he'll eat for 1-2 hours, prepare for bed for ever. In the morning it takes 1,5 hours to prepare and to bring him to school, which is 10 minutes drive from home.
He'll forget to undress after he comes from school, walk aimlessly around the house, doing nothing. Then I push him to eat dinner. It takes 1-2 hours to eat. Then he needs to brush his teeth, to take a shower and go to bed, which will take for ever, if we don't check him every minutes. He'll tell "Yes, OK, I'll do it", but then he's stuck again and again.
The worst is, that he picks his skin with his nails, makes it to bleed already for one year. When the scabs heal, he removes them, and scrubs them, and injures himself again and again, from time to time.
We have a doctor, who works with him - doing relaxing meditation with him, working with his hands, trying to convince him, that his hands are wonderful and beautiful, etc. He does honey massage of his hands, and the skin is really looks much nicer now. Also my son needs to take care, massage with honey his skin by himself, too. Doctor explained us, that my son needs to actively take care of his hands himself.
I understand, he has anxiety.
I know, he is maybe missing serotonin in his brain. But I'll never give him drugs. I bought GABA - which supplies neurotransmitters with serotonin, and vitamin B-complex and B12, B6, C and few others.
I made a huge have metal detox treatment with our homeopatist, and many metals came out from my son's body, throughout the period from 2006 to now.
I know, I need to be patient.
But how should I work on his schedule. My animation helps him to focus on science, but not on the schedule.
Please, help me with advice. How to work with my son on changing from one activity to another - so one day he'll do it all by himself: getting up, dressing, eating, preparing to school and go to the car in the morning and coming home, eating, doing some homework /with me or by himself/, preparing for bed and going to sleep in the evening?
I'd appreciate every advice. I know, it can take 3-4 years, but I'd like to understand long term strategy and how to deal with it every day?