I absolutely loved reading your post. Your enthusiasm and celebration of your son totally shines through. I am cheering you on for jumping and helping your son grow so significantly using The Son-Rise Program® . Thank you for giving such clear examples of what your son is doing and how ways you are trying to help him.
It is exciting that you have a clear goal of inspiring him to ask “what,” “who” and “where” questions. When we want our children to understand a new concept we want to be mindful that we are modeling with delight, that we are celebratory of all attempts even if they may not be the clear result, we want to design games based on our child's motivation that will leave space to challenge them, in addition we want to give fun explanations as to why it is useful to ask questions.
In your example of the grapefruit, a.k.a, THE BIG Orange
, here are some things to consider; celebrate your son’s direction to sharing his thoughts and creativity vs. trying to correct it. Next, I may model more clearly and run over and get a big orange and put it next to the grapefruit. Then I would explain in a fun way. This does look like a big orange but actually it tastes very different than that. It has a different name, which is grapefruit. I could buy it if you want to taste the difference. If he insists that it is a big orange, then let it be. This is something we will have more freedom to work within the playroom. It sounds like he may get somewhat inflexible with this new part of his development.
Your games sound so creative and useful. Here some additional thoughts;
•Leave cliff hangers- Create stories based on his motivations. Bring them to life with pictures, puppets and actions. When you ask him ,”do you want to know what this is,” he can shut down what you are going for based on his answer, which is “no”. The cliffhanger will leave space where he would naturally ask such questions. Since this is a challenge for him you want to base your fun story on a motivation and leave room for the request when you see that he is motivated for the story. You want to use an energy of excitement and anticipation during this time. Say you are telling a story of an adventure at the beach. You can exclaim “When I crept up to the ocean I heard a silly sound “ARR” “ARR”ARR”!” You will never guess WHAT I saw?” Then pause for up to 8-10 seconds vs. offering him the answer!
• Design games that involve asking your friends questions- You can interview favorite characters, playmates, puppets. Model the game first by interview a character. Maybe he can watch and be entertained. Then offer him time to ask questions.
• Explain that asking questions is a fun way to get to know our friends. Have fun modeling asking questions to other people around the house, in front of him. Celebrate each other for the question you are asking. This way he can really see it in action and get a deeper understanding of it’s use.
• Design games that require guessing, charades
• Introduce him to the concept of who what and where in your statements. The Sea is Where the octopus lives. Mary Ann is Who you will play with next. The greengrocer’s is Where Big Oranges are!
Mariana, have so MUCH FUN! You sound like you have a creative and fun team. It is an amazing journey you have chosen. Love every minute.