Q&A session 9
Nout, 8 years old, diagnosis autism... She don't speak
one word, except yes. Do you think it's possibly that
she is going to speak? Marieke can pee on the toilet
since this year (very good) but the other thing (poop,
I think you name it) she droppes it on the floor, and
sometimes in a diaper. How can I get her to toilet for
this? Thanks for helping me. Mother of Marieke - Marian
In January I go to the Start-Up in the Netherlands -
A: I look forward
to seeing you in Utrecht! I'm sure you'll find the program
to be very helpful with the different challenges Marieke
has. We have an entire afternoon segment on how to encourage
First of all, yes, I absolutely think it is possible
Marieke can speak. One of the best aspects of the Son-Rise
Program is our belief in the children and families that
we work with. With that belief, we help families go
for more than they otherwise might with their family.
For example, there was a mother who we worked with,
who had a sixteen-year old son who had never spoken.
Many people wouldn't try to help him to speak…or would
put very little time effort and energy into it. Why
would they if they didn't believe in that ability? People
put their time and energy into what they believe they
can influence. His mother began a Son-Rise Program with
him and learned to fully believe in his linguistic ability…
he now speaks in sentences! He is just one example of
a child who flourished under a parent's steadfast belief
in his abilities! We can help you grow this belief in
your daughter during our Start-Up program.
For those of you interested in learning more about our
comprehensive, five-day Start-Up Programs, we have a
link on the top left of this page.
In terms of helping her getting bowel
movements (her poop) into the toilet, here are a few
- Have fun with this. Your attitude towards her
poop can help inspire her to want this. This is
the most important part of helping her… how you
- Don't force her to sit on the toilet when you
think she is going to do a bowel movement. This
only makes the toilet less attractive and unmotivating.
Give her as much control as you can around this,
so when she goes, she knows that it was her choice.
This makes all the difference, long term.
- Model to her exactly what you want her to do.
You take the diaper (or get what's on the floor),
and dump the contents into the toilet. Do it with
great verve and excitement. Show her that you think
and feel this is the best place in the world to
put it! Cheer when it's in the toilet!!
- Be calm and easy if she goes on the floor or in
her diaper. Don't tell her she is naughty or say
"Ick" or "gross", this just makes going on the floor
more interesting for her to do the next time.
- Explain to her exactly what you want her to do
and why. Even if she is not saying many words right
now, she very well may understand everything you
say. You can even do it when she is peeing. For
example, one thing you can say is: "Good! Now, you
go poop! Right into the toilet. You can do it."
- When you are reading or telling her stories, include
a bit about the main characters going on the toilet,
and how everybody loved it and cheered. This way,
it becomes a more familiar part of her life.
so many questions this time… thank you for sending them
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I hope everyone has a great winter! Enjoy your children.
Intro to Q&A Session
with Sensory Integration Dysfunction