Q&A session 3 with the Director of The
Son-Rise Program®, Bryn N. Hogan.
Topic: Diagnosed With Autism
Q: Dear Bryn,
My name is Linda and I live in a little town in Wyoming.
I have a son who is 19 and I need some help. I have
been reading about autism and think my son has a form
of it. When he was little he exhibited some signs, but
in many ways he grew quite normally. He Literally rocked
his crib to pieces as a baby. He would get on his hands
and knees and rock back and forth and say "AHHH Ahhh
AHHH" for hours. When he got a bit older he loved music
and would sit and rock to the music. He would do it
in cars or rocking chairs. Even to this day he has been
through many banana chairs and carpets from listening
to LOUD music and rocking back and forth. His school
years weren't too bad. He didn't seem to have many friends
and the ones he did have were the ones no one else ran
around with. He didn't keep them for very long because
he was always mean, selfish and bossy. He actually did
well in the school subjects that were exactas. He has
never had any common sense and believes any weird abstract
things people tell him. He has a horrible temper and
if things don't go exactly how he wants he goes crazy.
Then in a few minutes he is fine. Things are never his
fault. He feels the whole world is picking on him and
he can't conform. He can't seem to understand directions
and does things the easy way instead of the right way.
He has always had so many fears about so many things
in life. Now that he is out of school he doesn't fit
into the norm. He worked at one job and got fired after
a week because he did what he wanted, not what he was
suppose to. He is a compulsive liar. He has obsessive
tendencies, such as he ties and reties his shoes many
times to get it just the same on each foot. He kept
his room immaculate (which has been a joy to me, his
mother, but it doesn't seem normal) We hardly ever can
have a normal conversation with him because he is always
right and just throws the weirdest stuff into the conversations.
At age 19 he acts more like a 14 year old . We, his
parents, are very worried about him. We got him into
counseling but he didn't want to be there because he
thinks there is nothing wrong with him. He also has
Raynauds, which is an autoimmune problem. He is on Celexa
which has helped a bit with his violent temper. One
time he chopped our counter up because there was no
peanut butter in the cupboard. We love him and don't
know where to turn to help him fit in. Am I totally
off base thinking this may be a form of autism? Please
let us know. We are at our wits end.
Name: Linda M.
Child: David, 19 years old
A: Dear Linda,
Thank you so much for asking this question. As you may
know, one of the main principles of The
Son-Rise Program® is "The parent is
the child's best Resource", and with this in mind, I
put great value and meaning to your observations. From
what you have written, I think it is absolutely possible
that your son could be diagnosed with some form of Autism.
I also think it is possible that he may have other challenges.
We would want to talk to you more in depth to help you
to determine how to best suport David and help him to
grow and to help your family as a whole. Since you posted
your address and information I am going to have someone
call and make an appointment for you with one of our
Family Counselors (there is no charge for this service)
so you can take some time on the phone and we can determine
how we can help you and support you.
With warm regards,
I hope that as the weeks
progress, I will have ample opportunity to answer all
the questions from everyone who is wanting support.
For me, this is another rare and unique opportunity
to offer our support and guidance to those who want
help. Thank you all for making this exciting exchange
possible through your participation. Please know you
can contact us by telephone to speak to a staff member
if you have more questions. Call us at: (413) 229-2100
Intro to Q&A Session
and Eye Contact
Development Delay and Physical Therapy