Q&A session 2 with the Director of The
Son-Rise Program®, Bryn N. Hogan.
Topic: Concentration Problems
My name is Sonja Buysrogge. Gino is my husband. We have
a son, Tim. He is diagnosed with PDD-NOS and is six
and a half. He has attended a school for children with
special needs since he was a year old. We also administer
a medication. Since we started that, Tim responds more
to us and we can reach him better. When we stopped giving
him the medicine he became again almost unreachable
and very very busy. We cannot correct him at such moments
nor can he help himself when he is like that.
We already tried several therapies. Maybe I'm a big
dreamer, but I have this strong feeling that he has
so much in him, but there is this big hindrance that
prevents his development. Concentration is a big, big
problem and so is his behavior especially when he is
with other kids. He would like to play with them very
much, but he doesn't know how to behave and he'll end
up in making funny movements and funny faces.
At the moment; I'm teaching him to read. When he is
able to concentrate on it, this goes well. He's able
to learn things. He's able to read simple four-word
Tim really is a very lovely and beautiful child. We
love him so very much, and he is able to communicate
his love for us, too. He has a baby sister who is 10
months younger. Just today he told me again how happy
he is with Fransien. He likes to play with her, and
she likes playing with her big brother, too.
I probably can write a whole book about my little boy,
but I will stop now. Maybe we can contact and I'll write
a lot more some other time about him.
I read the books "Son-rise (Verbroken Stilte), A Miracle
To Believe In" and "Happiness Is A Choice". I found
them to be very helpful.
I regret not having known about The Son-Rise
Program® in Rotterdam I really want
to do all that's possible and all that's in my ability
to help my child to be as happy as can be in this world.
I hope to hear from you soon and thank you already.
Name: Sonja and Gino B.
Child: Tim, 61/2 years
A: Dear Sonja,
Your love for your son is so apparent in this communication.
It is wonderful to hear the ways in which you value
and appreciate and believe in him - he is lucky to have
you loving him.
At this time, perhaps it would be more helpful for Tim
if you focused less on academics (i.e. learning to read
and write) and more on socialization. We have found
that it can be incredibly helpful for you to create
a place in your home (a "playroom") which you can use
to work with him. In this way, you can filter out distractions
that may make socialization and learning difficult for
him, and help him to grow and blossom. You may want
to begin by simply following his lead as much as possible.
Play the games he chooses, and fully enjoy them! By
doing this you can demonstrate that people are easy
to be with and interact with. As you notice he responds
to this (perhaps communicating more, looking at you
more, etc), you can begin to suggest activities and
games that may be new or more challenging for him. Rather
than focus on academic learning, if you focus on social
interaction, he will be more able to concentrate and
focus and then he will be able to take in information
more quickly and with more ease.
As you have written, there is so much more you could
tell me about Tim. I am sure you may have more questions..
I think it would be very, very helpful if you could
contact us and speak with one of our Family Counselors
(no charge) so that they may make some additional suggestions
and share with you ways that we might be able to help
Wishing you the best with Tim,
I hope that as the weeks
progress, I will have ample opportunity to answer all
the questions from everyone who is wanting support.
For me, this is another rare and unique opportunity
to offer our support and guidance to those who want
help. Thank you all for making this exciting exchange
possible through your participation. Please know you
can contact us by telephone to speak to a staff member
if you have more questions. Call us at: (413) 229-2100
Intro to Q&A Session